R2I to Bangalore June 2025

[wd40]

I just watched this video of an American NRI R2I story when his child was 14!
Quite a bold move. But I fully agree with his points and my points are also exactly the same.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3h8mzshvRQ

[ShrimaanJi]

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Please DO NOT get me wrong BUT I do not seem to agree with these folks and the guy who runs this channel. I go to India (I am from Hyderabad and my wife from Hubli) at least 5 - 10 times on business and have been looking properties in Hyderabad, Bangalore. IMHO..... both cities are turning out to be shit holes in the name of progress like another shit hole Mumbai or Tumbai as it is called in Rainy Season. Sorry, but absolutely true and I do not want to waste my time in bashing India - NOT worth at all. The prices are like Dubai or best places in USA but other things are just horrible.

We are also looking to relocate to India ... BUT I am NOT so sure because I sincerely feel what is peddled/portrayed by some folks (Read you know who:lol: ) is NOT a REALITY. Rather just a propaganda.

[SAPPORO]

Why go all the way to India for Chai and Samosa - it's going to be in hotels near you!
https://www.reuters.com/world/us/chai-s ... 024-12-11/
Not sure this trend would be reversed by T2.0.

[wd40]

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Please DO NOT get me wrong BUT I do not seem to agree with these folks and the guy who runs this channel. I go to India (I am from Hyderabad and my wife from Hubli) at least 5 - 10 times on business and have been looking properties in Hyderabad, Bangalore. IMHO..... both cities are turning out to be shit holes in the name of progress like another shit hole Mumbai or Tumbai as it is called in Rainy Season. Sorry, but absolutely true and I do not want to waste my time in bashing India - NOT worth at all. The prices are like Dubai or best places in USA but other things are just horrible.

We are also looking to relocate to India ... BUT I am NOT so sure because I sincerely feel what is peddled/portrayed by some folks (Read you know who:lol: ) is NOT a REALITY. Rather just a propaganda.

I have followed this channel extensively and watched atleast 50 videos. I was also a member of their whatsapp group

I don't agree with a lot of things a lot of people say in the videos. However, I feel, everyone has their reasons to move back to India.

If you want to compare and evaluate on an analytical basis, I think it will just lead to analysis paralysis and we will never be able to move back.

To move back you just need one reason and it may not make sense for others, if it makes sense for you then thats what matters.

I find it funny people here compare countries and continents and argue forever why India is horrible or why US is bad.

Honestly, none of this matters. US will always be there with 3-400 million people making a living and India will always be there with 1.4-1.8billion people making a living.

In the grand scheme of things we are just mere speks of dirt who will live another 30-50 years. Honestly it doesn't matter where you live and how you spend the remaining years of your life. Just go/stay whereever you will be happy, relatively. There is no need to justify to anyone, we all lead our individual lives and it is unique. Not everyone will understand what we want/like so we are just barking at the wrong tree.

BTW, just to update, I am in Bangalore vacation right now. I have done the admission for my daughter for next year in Chrysalis Yelahanka for 8th grade.

My parents have a landed house in Sahakarnagar and we plan to live in the upper floor, which is currently rented out for cheap 16k a month. I offered my dad that I will pay the rent and live upstairs. Initially my parents said why not live down itself. I tactfully justified that we all need individual rooms, so it is better we stay up and we don't consider it as living seperate but together only, just up and down. They agreed, and also said my decision is right and others in the same layout have done the same and no need to pay the rent, they already have lot of money and don't know what to do with it, so housing is set

My daughter school is about 7kms away, although there is school bus available, I plan to ride/drive my daughter for the pickup and drop. So that gives me a routine in case I don't find WFH job.

So that's the update, I am looking forward to the move next year in May

[Returning_Indian]

This is fantastic. I agree you just need one reason to move back. Infact, sometimes it's just what heart/mind wants and you do it. There will always be regrets in life on how you could have done things differently and it would have made you happier. But that's that. You manage those regrets and keep marching on. Things will frustrate you no matter how good you are in managing your expectations. You cannot talk too much about it to your friends/relatives as they will see you as pompous NRI. I use this forum to vent at times, not for justifying or finding any solution.

I think 7kms away is too far for traffic mismanaged city like Bangalore. Even in Gurgaon with much better roads it may take around 45mins one way. So that means 3-4hr of drives for you. School bus gives an opportunity for children to mingle with others from your area and maybe make some friends as well. But at the same time it will give that 1-2hr exclusive time with her so that's a big plus. She will get real busy with exams, classes, phone, friends and may not have as much time for you but while driving you will bond really well.

You have certainly come a long way from not talking to your parents to now staying with them. Life is just full of surprises. I have learned to accept my parents just the way they are and build my relationship on things I like about them rather than what I don't like. But even with everything I would not want to stay with them in the same house. They will see everything I do and make comments and that would infuriate me. I like to order food from outside and my parents don't. They would not be happy and make comments. My family is strict vegetarian and me eating chicken/eggs would be a point of conflict. They don't even eat cake with eggs. Me drinking alcohol would just bring their world crashing down and my mom would go in lecture mode. They like to start their day at 3am and that is really difficult for others who are sleeping. When we go to their place, we sleep in faraway rooms where we cannot hear them. But at the same time your daughter's bonding with them will certainly improve and that I feel is priceless. She will learn to adjust living with others so it may not come as a complete shock when she goes to college. Being a single kid right now she has complete control of people she lives with. Very soon that is about to change. So it maybe a bit change for her but necessary one I feel.

[wd40]

This is fantastic. I agree you just need one reason to move back. Infact, sometimes it's just what heart/mind wants and you do it. There will always be regrets in life on how you could have done things differently and it would have made you happier. But that's that. You manage those regrets and keep marching on. Things will frustrate you no matter how good you are in managing your expectations. You cannot talk too much about it to your friends/relatives as they will see you as pompous NRI. I use this forum to vent at times, not for justifying or finding any solution.

I think 7kms away is too far for traffic mismanaged city like Bangalore. Even in Gurgaon with much better roads it may take around 45mins one way. So that means 3-4hr of drives for you. School bus gives an opportunity for children to mingle with others from your area and maybe make some friends as well. But at the same time it will give that 1-2hr exclusive time with her so that's a big plus. She will get real busy with exams, classes, phone, friends and may not have as much time for you but while driving you will bond really well.

You have certainly come a long way from not talking to your parents to now staying with them. Life is just full of surprises. I have learned to accept my parents just the way they are and build my relationship on things I like about them rather than what I don't like. But even with everything I would not want to stay with them in the same house. They will see everything I do and make comments and that would infuriate me. I like to order food from outside and my parents don't. They would not be happy and make comments. My family is strict vegetarian and me eating chicken/eggs would be a point of conflict. They don't even eat cake with eggs. Me drinking alcohol would just bring their world crashing down and my mom would go in lecture mode. They like to start their day at 3am and that is really difficult for others who are sleeping. When we go to their place, we sleep in faraway rooms where we cannot hear them. But at the same time your daughter's bonding with them will certainly improve and that I feel is priceless. She will learn to adjust living with others so it may not come as a complete shock when she goes to college. Being a single kid right now she has complete control of people she lives with. Very soon that is about to change. So it maybe a bit change for her but necessary one I feel.

Thanks! My parents live in Sahakarnagar and the school is in Yelahanka, it takes about 15 mins drive because it is highway to the airport and it is opposite direction to office going traffic. We did test run couple of times, for the admissions and it was really smooth.

Regarding school bus, it will invariably add 30 mins extra because of multiple pickups. So for now I plan to do the pickup drop myself. We will see how things go.

My parents are getting old now, in mid 70s, I think they also realise that they are lonely, even though they have lots of helpful neighbours in times of need, nothing like having family members closeby. Also for them it is a matter of pride that they son is close by, you know how Indian society is, they nag people saying all your kids are outside India and who will take care of you etc So atleast for external appearance they dont have to face it.

I feel living in the upper floor gives us the necessary privacy, especially for my wife. But at the same time, I can see them every day/week. If we stay in a different house further away, then it takes effort just to come to meet them.

My biggest achievement was to convince my wife to stay in the upper floor, as initially I sold her the idea that we could buy a nice flat and she can decorate it however she wants.

But the more and more I mulled over the idea, it is not worth staying in an apartment in Bangalore. We will have to make effort to make new circle and we have to arrange everything.

But if we go and stay in the upper floor of parents house, everything is set, we don't need to worry about a lot of things and in India being within a community which you already know helps a lot. My cousin and uncle also stays nearby.

Also my sister left her Alto car with my dad and he doesn't drive it anymore. So we just get to use the car. There are so many synergies if living in the same house, luckily my parents built a upper floor and gave it for rent, so it makes perfect sense to go there and occupy it.

[mcr]

BTW, just to update, I am in Bangalore vacation right now. I have done the admission for my daughter for next year in Chrysalis Yelahanka for 8th grade.
My parents have a landed house in Sahakarnagar and we plan to live in the upper floor, which is currently rented out for cheap 16k a month.
So that's the update, I am looking forward to the move next year in May

All the best with your move WD40! Sahakarnagar is a nice neighborhood with good connectivity to airport and the CBD. With a ton of money in your bank account and very practical expectations regarding life in India, I am sure yours will be a successful R2I.

[SAPPORO]

@Wd40, Congratulations and best wishes! All good except that if I were you, I would have a plan B for the housing. A friend's wife would not even stay in my friend's childhood home just because she found out that her MIL never liked her, and the interesting part is that MIL died a dozen years ago!

[SAPPORO]

I can't believe it's 20 years since Mohan's R2I, wonder how he's doing now!
https://www.indiatoday.in/movies/bollyw ... 2024-12-17

[JINSAKAI]

I can't believe it's 20 years since Mohan's R2I, wonder how he's doing now!
https://www.indiatoday.in/movies/bollyw ... 2024-12-17

Last time I heard about him, he got bored and finally joined SpaceX to escape to mars